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Brutal Truths That Will Improve Your Life (And Make You a Better Person)
“The most important thing to remember is this: to be ready at any moment to give up what you are for what you might become.” — W. E. B. Du Bois
Changing habits is tough. Really hard. Your brain is equipped with defense mechanisms designed to shoot down anything that might keep things from staying exactly where they are.
Left unchecked, we always default toward a more comfortable path. Your comfortable zone provides a state of mental security. You can understand why it’s so hard to kick your brain out of your comfort zone.
But when the pain of where you are is greater than the fear of where you are going, you will change.
You’re not immortal. You know that, but your brain has a really hard time processing that, so you ignore everything you can do right to make the most of life until it’s too late. You assume that there’s time for things to work out. But time is literally running out.
Your first step to improving your life and becoming the best version of your self won’t be easy. Nobody can promise that things will be easy but they will be better. It pays to take a small action–any action–and grow from there. Remember, you are better off trying than anyone else who isn’t trying.
You can’t be perfect, and holding yourself to unrealistic standards creates suffering. When you let go of perfectionism, you can accept that you did your best, whatever the outcome. Always remember, you can do your best and still fail. But you are not your failure.
You can’t control everything — but you can control how you respond. Most things are outside your control. But there is one thing you can always control — and that is yourself, your reactions and ideas.
Words have the power to oppress, hurt, and shame, than your thoughts. And they also have the power to liberate and inspire — start using them more prudently.
Your ambition, goal, or even ideas means nothing without execution — it’s time to put in the work. Results is what you want, not ideas that never see the light of day.
If you genuinely want something, don’t wait for it — teach yourself to be impatient. — Gurbaksh Chahal
Time, not money, is your most valuable asset. Use it to advance your career and life whislt you still have it.
The results you want can take twice as long. Don’t quit because you can’t figure out the process. Embrace and enoy the journey. Deliberate practice has a lot to do with your success than you think.
The good news is that the sheer act of practicing will help you come out of your shell. The bad news is that you have no other choice if you really want to be amazing at what you do. People quit because it takes too long to see results. Because they can’t figure out that the process is sometimes the result. Nothing beats deliberate practice.
Consistent hustle always wins.
Doing meaningful work you enjoy takes effort, time and creativity. And there are no guarantees. Its full of risks. People who are comfortable hate risks. They choose stability over maximising their potential. And that can make you miserable.
Idleness will almost always lead to regret later. The secret to being happy and content, in general, is to do something of value to yourself and/or others regularly.
Guess what, misery is comfortable. It’s why so many people prefer it. It’s so much easier to just sit back and criticize other people’s creations. Choose yourself and show your work.
In the real world, you don’t get anything by wishing it, and you can’t get a reaction without action. When you play it too safe, you’re taking the biggest risk of your life.
“I don’t have the time,” is not an excuse. There are 168 hours every week. Let that sink in for a moment. That is a monumental amount of time. Where could it possibly go? If you really want to do what have to do to make you a better person, you will find, create or make time for it.
If you want to make something people really care about, that they actually give a holy shit about, you have to care about it yourself.
Stop looking for shortcuts. No, really, stop. Read the whole book, not the Wikipedia summary. Think about it. Life is not a collection of sound bites.
Being noticed is not the same as being remarkable. Don’t get noticed for the wrong reasons. Be remarkable for your smartest and best work. You will be amazed at what you can do if you put your mind to it. Not everyone appreciates your efforts to be remarkable. In fact, most people don’t. But go for it anyway.
You have everything you need to make an impact in the world. You don’t even have to start your own business. What you need is something you can you can emotionally and deeply connect with. Don’t think too far into the future. Use what you have right now at where you are and witness themagic of creative work. If you’re thinking about it too much, chances are you’re killing it.